Dignity Has No Gender!

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There’s a leaked sex tape of a male Nigerian artist—Oxlade—trending online. And I’ve been seeing people cruising about it on so Social media—people calling him a “Spider-man” and praising him for his “skills”.

No body is saying how disgusting his attitude is, no one is saying how disappointed they are in him; and how he has no “dignity”.

I remember some time last year, when a leaked sex tape of the female Nigerian artist, Tiwa Savage, surfaced. I recall how she were called out and massively shamed for that (a sex tape that was probably used as a blackmail). But in Oxlade’s case, people are catching cruise and trivializing it. He will not lose any endorsement, as a matter of fact, his songs will probably trend more. 

This tells you how society has normalized IRRESPONSIBILITY in men/boys, and this is really disheartening.

Mind you, the point here is not for “irresponsibility” to be normalized in both genders, but rather, for the same level of self-worth and “dignity” be demanded of both male and female.

If something is categorized as “shameful” it means that it remains shameful whether it was done by a man or a woman. 


Dignity has no gender!


All of you posting memes of Oxlade as a Spider-Man, but shamed Tiwa savage, you all are “HEEPOCREETS”!


~ Progress Oberiko

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