BIG MEN DON’T TOAST GIRLS!

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A big man do not approach a girl in the conventional way and use words like:
“I like you”,
“You’re very beautiful”,
“I’d like to date you”,
“I’d like you to be my girlfriend”, Or
“Lemme give you sometime to think about it”

For where!

When they get your phone number, they start by calling once a day, some send airtime unsolicited. And when you respond with “Hello sir”, or “Thank you sir”, they be like:  “Don’t call me Sir”, I’m Donald.

Most of them don’t even bother asking whether you’re in a relationship. E nor concern them.

When they call you on phone they use endearments like:
“Hello sweetheart”,
“My dear”,
“My darling”
“My baby girl”
“Hey beautiful”... etc

Na so e take dey start o.

From there they invite you for a sit out and chit chats. They make you chop anything you want and offer to drop you off. Even though they drop you off at your doorstep, they still give you Tfare - An amount which will make you want to see them again. Lol...

Sometimes, while in the car they start holding your hands as they drive with the other, and start fondling your fingers as they tease you alongside or remain silent. (By this time you should have already gotten the drift, because he’s not your FATHER! Except you’re a MUMU).

Next up after a day, they’re itching to see you again; invite you over to their house and make you leave the big parlor to come sit in their bedroom. When you act like you’re okay sitting on the chair, they invite you to sit on the bed so you can be more comfortable. Na lie o! Der get plans!
(All of these could happen on your first meeting or within few days.)

Because of their status you might want to show some respect and politeness and obey them.

If you agree to sit on the bed, babe.... only you can tell the story.

If you’re decent enough and self disciplined, you can manage to play headstrong and leave that place without ‘dancing or clapping’. (You know) Sometimes leaving him offended and feeling insulted. And after that day he never calls you again.

If you talk to him about it, he begins to accuse you and say shit like:
... “So you thought I would have slept with you or raped you”?
... “A man of my status”,
... “I don’t sleep with random girls”,
...“How could you even imagine that of me”?
...blah blah blah. Arrant nonsense!

Sometimes, they begin to make you feel like you did the wrong thing, or were too presumptuous about them.

My sister na lie o! That nigga is a “FUCKBOY”, or better still a “FUCK-MAN”!

Don’t feel guilty if you were able to escape, my sister you did the right thing! Don’t be too scared or overly respectful to say NO!

Don’t be afraid, don’t be shy!

RUN! When you still have your legs!

Except you like SPREADING...
Try Get Sense!!!

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