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Looking for an apartment in London is like looking for a life partner. Very similar characteristics: You’ll see the one with a good location: proximity to market, bus station, etc, but has a tiny tiny room.  🤦🏻‍♀️   If you eventually find one of good size, the rent price will be enough to buy land in your home country!  If you say you should go for a shared apartment to save cost, you will see the one with too many flatmates (4-7 people under one roof)! With a high tendency of noise and discord! And I don’t recommend this if you’re a student!  You will also see the one that has only one bathroom (with like 7 Flatmates sharing it), and you’ll literally have to queue to shower! You will also find houses where flatmates have pets—pets that’ll be sharing the kitchen with you  😥 . And if you’re someone like me who has a phobia for animals, you’re finished! It’s just so difficult to find one that ticks all the boxes, especially if you’re on a budget: Space, locatio...

BDSM - An acronym for ' bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism' . It is a form of sex where one person inflicts pain on the other for pleasure. And I will never understand the concept behind it.  Because why will you tie me with ropes and handcuffs, and flog me with a belt in the name of lovemaking? I find this insane!  You can call me old school but it just doesn’t make sense to me. There’s a difference between sexual abuse and abusive sex, and BDSM for me is abusive sex!  In research I participated in, I interviewed a lady who said that her husband cuts her lips with a blade and sucks her blood when having sex with her because sucking her blood turns him on the more. My people, please what do you call this? Vampire moves in the name of lovemaking! It is psychopathic!   It is called “love making” for a reason, and love in itself should not inflict pain on another, no matter how pleasurable it feels.  You mustn’t practice eve...

  When you move abroad you’ll notice a difference in preaching styles. The gospel you’ll hear from Nigerian preachers is absolutely different from abroad gospel. While many Nigerian preachers focus more on  tithing and prosperity, - Breaking generational curses, - Casting out poverty, - Binding demons, - Praying for jobs, husbands,  - Praying against accidents etc The preachers abroad focus more on building righteousness: - Their gospels are less about wealth, or tithes, or poverty, - They preach about building a relationship with God - About how to be righteous, - About Charity, and helping others - About loving one another, etc Although different, these two types of gospel are valid and essential in their own way. But the former is influenced mostly by bad governance, which is what we suffer in Nigeria. It is true that people stop being overly religious when they move abroad, and this is because all the things they pray for have been taken care of by the government. The...

  Please don’t let anybody pressure you into when and how you should have children.  Please people should stop having “children-expectation” from newly married couples.  When a couple is newly married and after a year no child, people start labeling them as though they have fertility issues.  But that’s not always true. People have different reasons for not having kids immediately. And one of them is building intimacy.  📍 I think that the first few years of marriage should be used to build intimacy with your partner.  This intimacy and friendship are what will hinge both partners together in the long run.  📍 Because whether you like it or not, when children start coming it can never be that same.  There’ll be a lot of distractions and divided attention.  📍 Your Intimacy is more or less like glue in the relationship, and it is pertinent because your children will become adults and eventually leave to stay on their own, and you will be left ...

  I did something today that I’m really proud of, even though I ended up breaking down in tears after — Calling out racism! I’ve met lovely people across all races since I moved to the UK. I’ve had very pleasant and memorable experiences. But I’ve also encountered people who left me with unpalatable experiences. One very repetitive disgusting experience is RACISM!  I don’t care how covert it is, it is evident and it absolutely disgusting! So today I discovered a massive mall not very far from me and I went on a tour. It is called Exchange mall located in Illford East London!  One of the shops I visited was TK Maxx , I looked around a bit as I window shopped, and on my way out as I approached the exit door, I saw a security staff dutifully positioned there.  I clearly heard one of his colleagues giving him an instruction through his walkie-talkie phone. He said, “The Black Female approaching, keep an eye on her”.  Now, I was the only Black female approaching the ...

  One of the proudest things I’ve done in my life is resigning from a toxic work environment. I once worked with this Start-up organization, where the CEO was a real bossy boss.  He was walking in his “CEO shoes” every day of his life, he was so obsessed with achieving his dream for his org that he cared less about his employees!  We would use our personal emails and our personal mobile number to reach out to clients.  I remember suggesting that a work phone should be provided for me because the clients were beginning to encroach on my personal space, but I was told off and tagged a complainer. In so many ways we were going out of our way to help him achieve his goals for his organization, yet these sacrifices meant nothing to him.  He kept demanding more.  He’d give us tasks that encroached into our weekends even though working weekends wasn’t part of our employment contract, and when we fell short of delivery he’d scold us so harshly, making us feel like ...